Don't Turn Your Back On Love

Maybe this is you? The older you get, the less inclined you might be to believe in love. And you've learned that fate is what you make it and you've tried doing that, carved out interests and work for yourself, made yourself a better person. But no matter how rational you are on the outside, you are still willing to search for passion on the inside. You're on the right track, you know.

A classic Capricorn, I'm a pretty serious person, hard to read, stubborn, solitary. Yet, those people who take the time to get to know me realize how outgoing and adventurous I can be and are constantly surprised at my impulses (like driving to Seattle from Los Angeles one day to visit a friend). If I can be so unpredictable (well, every once in a while, anyway), maybe other people can to. I've learned to forget first impressions, give people a second chance and set free that inner judgement. I also no longer fantasize about what I want to happen, but let things unfold and see where they lead me. You can't force anyone to love you. You only have control over loving yourself. Concentrate on that.

Over the years, and all the trial and error, I've realized that love, true love, is a hell of a lot of work. And taking some lessons from unexpected places (like an improv class), it involves teamwork, listening, always contributing information and above all, letting go of the need to be right. And most importantly, remaining open to the universe. Forget the past and future - live in the now. Easier said than done, right? But if you don't look at what's in front of you, you will miss the big picture and that might be love from the last person you expected. Or not. And that's OK too. Stop looking. Relax.

First though, you need to make sure that you are the priority - that you truly love and know yourself, that you trust the world to be a life force and you're just along for the ride. As long as you never stop working on yourself, practice the art of forgiveness (especially with yourself) and really engage in the business of living, you will give off the right energy to find your path. Keep learning, keep doing, don't dwell, don't be angry, just live. And breathe. Aren't you amazing? Other people will eventually see it too. So, don't give up.

Kate West Reviews

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